Opening Game
Message Relay
Set up this game like a “telephone relay” but with a twist! Prepare a short, simple message that reflects a key theme of the lesson, such as “Pray for others,” “Trust in God,” or “Love one another.” Split the group into two teams, each forming a line. Whisper the message to the first person in each line, who then has to pass it along by whispering to the next person and so on. The last person in each line has to say the message out loud to the group. Compare what each team says at the end to see if the message stayed the same—or if it changed along the way! Repeat a few rounds with new messages.
Afterward, ask the group what they noticed about passing messages along. Sometimes the message is clear, but other times it can get confusing or changed—just like St. Bernadette’s experience with Our Lady’s messages, which were simple but had a lot of meaning.
That was fun! Sometimes it was easy to understand the message, but other times it got confusing. When Our Lady spoke to St. Bernadette, her messages were also simple but full of meaning that took time to understand. Just like in the game, these messages weren’t complicated, but they were important. Today, we’ll look at what those messages mean for us and how they can guide us in our own lives.
Discussion
When Our Lady of Lourdes appeared to St. Bernadette, she didn’t come with a long list of instructions or complicated teachings. Instead, she brought a series of simple, powerful messages that could guide Bernadette and all of us toward a deeper friendship with Jesus. Let’s take a closer look at each of Our Lady’s messages and what they mean for us today.
“What I have to say to you does not have to be written down.”
St. Bernadette thought she might need to write down the words of Our Lady, as if there was a lesson she had to memorize. But Our Lady gently let Bernadette know that her messages weren’t the kind that could be captured on paper. This wasn’t about rules, assignments, or just knowledge; it was about a relationship. Our Lady wanted Bernadette to listen with her heart, to let her messages sink deeply into her life.
For us, this means that faith isn’t only about facts, memorizing prayers, or even just going to Mass on Sunday. Our relationship with Jesus is something much deeper and personal. It’s about letting God’s love fill us and guide our lives. Sometimes, the most important lessons aren’t written down; they’re learned through spending time with God, in prayer and reflection, just like Bernadette did with Our Lady.
“Would you do me the kindness of coming here for 15 days?”
When Our Lady asked Bernadette to visit her for 15 days, she was inviting her into something much more than a task; it was an invitation to spend time together. This wasn’t about giving orders. Instead, Our Lady treated Bernadette with respect, even kindness. For Bernadette, who was often overlooked or dismissed because of her poverty and illness, this was incredible. Our Lady treated her as someone of great worth, looking at her “as one person looks at another person.”
This message is also for us: God doesn’t see us as just another face in the crowd. He knows each of us personally and treats us with the same respect and care that we see here between Our Lady and Bernadette. Our relationship with God isn’t about performing for Him or impressing Him; He just wants us to come and spend time with Him, even in our struggles and imperfections. God sees us with eyes of love, looking at us as one person looks at another.
“I do not promise to make you happy in this world but in the other.”
One of the most striking things Our Lady said to Bernadette was that she wasn’t promising happiness in this life. She reminded Bernadette that true happiness is waiting for us in heaven, and this life is a journey toward that eternal joy. Our Blessed Mother knows that life is full of challenges and that we might not always feel happy here on earth.
But this message of hope is a reminder to keep our eyes on the big picture. When life is tough, and we don’t understand why things are happening, we can remember that Jesus has prepared a place for us in heaven where there will be no more pain or sadness. Our Lady’s words tell us that, though this world can be hard, our final home is with God, where we will find happiness that never ends.
“Go to the spring, drink of it, and wash yourself there.”
Our Lady asked Bernadette to drink and wash herself at a spring that, at first, looked like muddy water. This was hard for Bernadette, as the grotto was basically a pigpen, and it wasn’t easy to believe that anything good could come from such a place. Yet, as she dug and washed, the water became clear. This spring has now become a place of healing for countless people from around the world.
This teaches us to trust in God’s power to bring good even from unlikely places. Sometimes, God calls us to places that seem uncomfortable or confusing, asking us to dig deeper to find the blessings hidden there. The spring also symbolizes cleansing and renewal—just like God’s grace can wash us clean from sin, bringing healing to our souls and our lives.
“Penance, penance, penance, pray for sinners.”
Our Lady’s call for “penance” wasn’t just a suggestion. She called for penance three times, emphasizing the need for sacrifice and prayer for others. She asked Bernadette not to just focus on her own salvation but to pray for all people. This reminds us of our duty to care about the spiritual needs of others, to pray, and to make sacrifices for them. God wants everyone to be saved, and our prayers can help bring others closer to Him.
When we pray for others or offer up a small sacrifice, we become part of God’s plan to bring grace and mercy into the world. It may seem like a small thing, but in God’s eyes, every prayer and act of kindness can make a difference.
“I am the Immaculate Conception.”
Finally, when Our Lady revealed herself as the Immaculate Conception, she was telling Bernadette and all of us that she was free from sin from the moment she was conceived. This is a powerful reminder of Mary’s purity and her role as a model of holiness for us. She is the “dwelling place” of Jesus and a living example of how we, too, are called to be temples of the Holy Spirit.
Our Lady’s life shows us that holiness is possible, and her purity inspires us to live in a way that brings us closer to God. God calls each of us to holiness, to be filled with His love, and to let that love shine through our lives.
Through these messages, Our Lady of Lourdes teaches us about love, faith, and the hope of eternal life. Each message reminds us that God wants a relationship with us, to be with us on this journey, and to guide us gently toward heaven.
Small Group Reflection Questions
In small groups, encourage students to share openly about their thoughts and feelings. Remind them that everyone’s input matters, and each person may have different insights. These questions are designed to help students reflect on the messages of Our Lady of Lourdes and what they mean for their lives. Guide them to listen respectfully and support each other as they share.
- What do you think Our Lady meant when she told Bernadette, “What I have to say to you does not have to be written down”?
- How would you feel if someone as special as Our Lady treated you with the same respect and kindness that she showed to St. Bernadette?
- When Our Lady said, “I do not promise to make you happy in this world but in the other,” what do you think she was trying to tell Bernadette?
- What is one area in your life where you could show more humility and obedience to God?
- Why do you think Our Lady chose a poor and humble girl like Bernadette to share her messages? What does this teach us about how God sees each person?
- Our Lady asked Bernadette to pray for sinners and to do penance. How could you apply this message in your own life?
- How does the idea of “eternal happiness in heaven” affect how you see challenges or difficulties in your own life?
- When Our Lady called herself the “Immaculate Conception,” what do you think she wanted to teach us about holiness and purity?
- What does it mean to you to be a “temple of the Holy Spirit” as Mary was for Jesus?
- How can we imitate Mary’s example of love and kindness in our daily lives?
Challenge
This week, I challenge you to live out one of the main messages of the Our Lady of Lourdes lesson: take time for a closer relationship with Jesus. Like St. Bernadette, try to set aside a few minutes each day to “visit” Jesus in prayer. You don’t need a perfect plan or fancy words; just bring yourself, like Bernadette did, and talk to Him about your day, your struggles, and the people who need help. You could even keep a prayer journal to write down your thoughts and prayers, knowing that this time is about building a friendship with Jesus.
The second part of the challenge is to do one act of kindness or penance for someone else each day. It could be as simple as being patient with someone, offering to help at home, or saying a small prayer for someone who is going through a hard time. These small sacrifices may not seem like much, but they help you become more like Mary and St. Bernadette, who cared about the needs of others. Each day, remind yourself that, just like Bernadette, you can bring God’s love and mercy into the world through these little acts.
Prayer
Let’s end with a simple prayer, asking for Mary’s help to live out what we’ve learned.
Take a deep breath, and let’s focus on God’s presence with us.
Dear Mother Mary, Our Lady of Lourdes, thank you for your love and the messages you brought to St. Bernadette. Help us to follow your example of humility, kindness, and prayer. Teach us to trust in God’s plan, even when it’s hard to understand. Give us the courage to pray for others and to offer little sacrifices, just like you asked. We want to grow closer to Jesus each day, and we ask for your guidance on this journey. Mother Mary, be with us always, leading us toward heaven. Amen.
Take a moment to ask Mary for one specific grace you need this week, and know that she hears you.
More Resources
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