Actions Speak Louder than Words
A Lesson on the Parable of the Two Sons
This lesson plan helps young people see that what we do matters more than what we say. Many youth already know how easy it is to say “yes” but never follow through. By exploring this truth, they begin to see that words without actions have little value. The lesson shows them that faith is lived out in daily choices, not just spoken in prayers or promises.
It also helps youth understand the connection between responsibility and trust. When someone keeps their word, trust grows. When someone fails to act, even with good excuses, trust weakens. Through stories, scripture, and discussion, young people will reflect on how their own actions affect relationships with friends, family, and God.
The lesson draws on the words of Jesus in the parable of the two sons. Here, youth learn that God values those who change their hearts and act on His call, even if at first they resist. This offers hope and encouragement, since every person has moments of failure but also chances to make things right.
Finally, the plan invites youth to put their faith into practice. It emphasizes that following Jesus is not only about believing or speaking but also about living in ways that show love, justice, and care for others. It reminds them that their actions can be a strong witness, shaping both their own lives and the lives of those around them.
Opening Game
Start this lesson plan on service by playing Charades (see the complete instructions and words to use).
Follow up with a couple of questions:
- Did you find it difficult to communicate using only actions?
- Which was the most difficult word or phrase? Which was the easiest?
- What makes it so much easier to use words instead of actions?
Most of us prefer using words to communicate. Using actions is more difficult. But sometimes actions speak louder than words.
Imagine you, Will, and Rita are working on a long term group project for school. You are dividing up the tasks which must be done this week. When you give Will his assignment, he tells you that he is going to be really busy for the next few days and won’t have time to do it. Ugh! That means more work for you. You give Rita her assignment and she tells you she understands it and will get it done right away.
The next day, Will calls you and says “I realize that was really unfair for me not to do any of the work for this week. I’ll take care of part of the assignment.” You talk it over and he takes one of the more difficult tasks.
The day before the work is due, the three of you have a meeting to put your work together. You have your work done. Will has completed his task. Rita says, “I never did it. We had a big family event over the weekend and I was tired.”
How do you feel about Will and Rita’s contributions to the project?
Scripture Reading
Matthew 21:28-32 (The parable of the two sons) – the Gospel Reading for the 26th Sunday in Ordinary Time – Year A
Jesus said to the chief priests and elders of the people: “What is your opinion?
A man had two sons. He came to the first and said, ‘Son, go out and work in the vineyard today.’
He said in reply, ‘I will not, ‘ but afterwards changed his mind and went.
The man came to the other son and gave the same order.
He said in reply, ‘Yes, sir, ‘but did not go.
Which of the two did his father’s will?”
They answered, “The first.”
Jesus said to them, “Amen, I say to you, tax collectors and prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God before you.
When John came to you in the way of righteousness, you did not believe him; but tax collectors and prostitutes did. Yet even when you saw that, you did not later change your minds and believe him.”
Discussion
Think for a moment about a time when someone told you they would do something, but then they never followed through. Maybe a friend said they would help you with homework, but when the time came, they didn’t show up. Maybe a teammate promised to practice with you but never made the effort. How did that make you feel? Most of us would say it left us disappointed, annoyed, or even hurt. That feeling comes from the simple truth that words are easy to say, but it is action that proves if someone is reliable. When someone’s actions do not match their words, it becomes hard to trust them. Trust grows when actions and words line up, but it weakens when they don’t.
Now think about your own promises. As Christians, we make many commitments. At baptism, promises are made to follow Jesus. At confirmation, those promises are renewed. We promise to love others, to forgive, to serve, and to keep God first in our lives. But let’s be honest—it’s not always easy to live those promises out. It can be hard to forgive someone who hurt you deeply. It can be hard to be kind when you are tired or frustrated. It can be hard to put others first when you just want to think about yourself. These are the moments when our actions show whether our faith is real or just words.
There are also times when we get it wrong. Maybe you told yourself you would help your parents, but you chose to watch videos instead. Maybe you decided to skip prayer because you were busy. Maybe you even said you would do the right thing but ended up following the crowd into something you knew was wrong. All of us have been there. But the good news is that God always gives us a chance to turn around. Just like the son in the parable who first said no but then changed his mind, we can choose to do what is right, even after making a bad choice at first. Turning back takes courage. It means admitting you were wrong and deciding to fix it. That is not easy, but it is one of the most important parts of living our faith.
This is where the sacraments become so important. Think about confession. When we go to reconciliation, we admit the times our actions have not matched our words or our faith. We tell God we are sorry and ask for His help to do better. That is a moment of humility and strength. The Eucharist also gives us strength. When we receive Jesus, we are fed and renewed so that we can live differently in the world. These sacraments help us take our faith out of church and into our daily lives, where our actions can show who we are and what we believe.
Being a Christian means being a doer of the Word, not just a hearer. It means listening to what Jesus teaches us and then living it. It’s not enough to only pray, sing, or say “I believe.” Those things are good, but if they never lead to action, they are empty. Real faith shows itself in love, compassion, justice, and service. When we live this way, we become witnesses of Jesus’ love in the world. People will see not just what we say, but what we do. And often, what we do speaks louder than any words we could ever say.
So ask yourself: what do your actions say about your faith? Are they showing the love of Christ, or are they showing something else? Each day is a chance to bring your actions closer to your beliefs. Each day is a chance to live the Gospel, not just speak it. When you choose to act with kindness, honesty, and courage, you show the world that your words and your faith are real. That is the challenge of being a disciple of Jesus, and it is also the joy.
Small Group Reflection Questions
When breaking into small groups, remind the youth that this is a safe space to share. Encourage them to listen respectfully to one another without interrupting. Let them know it is okay if they don’t have an answer right away. The goal is not to get everything perfect but to think together about how faith connects to real life. Invite them to be honest and open, but also gentle and kind in their words.
- Have you ever felt let down by someone whose actions did not match their words? How did you respond?
- Why do you think it is sometimes easier to say yes than to actually follow through?
- What are some promises we make as Christians that are hardest for you to live out?
- Can you think of a time when you first made the wrong choice but later turned back and did what was right? What helped you change?
- Why do you think it can be hard to admit when you were wrong?
- How do the sacraments, like reconciliation or the Eucharist, help us live out our faith with actions?
- What is one small action you could take this week that shows your faith in a real way?
Challenge
Choose one specific action you’d like to focus on this week to actively express your faith. It could be anything from helping a neighbor to spending more time in prayer. Then, summarize that action into a single word that encapsulates its essence.
Write this word on a prayer rock and make it a point to carry the rock with you throughout the week. The physical presence of the rock serves as a tangible reminder to act on your faith, reinforcing the lesson that actions speak louder than words.
(See the prayer rock activity for specific instructions)
Prayer
Let’s close our time together in prayer. I invite everyone to get comfortable and quiet your hearts. Close your eyes if that helps you focus. We are going to pray in a special way. Each of us will offer just one word at a time. That one word can be something you are thankful for, something you need, or something that shows how you feel.
As we pray, remember to keep a prayerful attitude. Speak in a normal voice. It is fine if someone else says the same word you are thinking of. After you share a word, let a few others speak before you go again. The goal is not to be funny or loud, but to offer our words to God from the heart. Words like peace, love, courage, and hope are all good examples.
Let’s begin with this prayer:
Father in heaven, we turn to you now. You know our thoughts, our needs, and our joys. We bring you these one-word prayers as a sign of our trust in you. Hear us and draw us closer to you.
(Allow the group to begin sharing words. Encourage leaders to help get started if needed.)
When the time feels right, close with these words:
Lord, thank you for hearing our prayers. You know our hearts even better than we do. Help us to live out the words we have spoken with our actions this week. Thy will be done. Thy will be done.
See complete instructions for the One Word Spontaneous Prayer Circle.
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Themes
- Faith Shown in Action: Our faith is real when it shows in what we do. Words matter, but actions prove if we believe what we say. Living faith means serving others and following Jesus daily.
- Honesty and Integrity: God calls us to be truthful in both words and deeds. Empty promises do not honor Him. True honesty comes when our actions match what we say.
- Turning Back to God: Even when we fail, God gives us chances to return. Like the son who first said no, we can change and do what is right. This shows God’s mercy and our willingness to grow.
- Trust and Reliability: People trust us when we keep our word. Failing to act weakens relationships. Doing what we promise builds strength in community.
- Sacraments Give Strength: Confession helps us turn away from sin. The Eucharist nourishes us to keep living our faith. These gifts help our actions stay close to God’s will.
- Service to Others: Jesus calls us to love through service. Helping someone in need shows real discipleship. Acts of kindness bring His presence into the world.
- Humility in Admitting Wrong: Saying we are wrong takes courage. Admitting failure opens the way to healing. God blesses us when we ask for forgiveness.
- Love Made Visible: Love is not just a feeling. It is shown in how we treat people. Small acts of care reveal God’s love.
- Obedience to God’s Call: God asks us to act, not just agree with our lips. Saying yes but not following through is empty. Obedience means doing His will even when it is hard.
- Building Christian Community: A community grows strong when members act with faith. Words of support must be backed by effort. Shared action brings unity and witness to the world.
- Hope Through Change: Mistakes are not the end. When we repent and act differently, we show hope in God’s plan. Change proves that God is always working in us.
Background Material
The lesson plan “Actions Speak Louder than Words” fits closely with Catholic teaching about faith, repentance, and living out the Gospel. Scripture shows us again and again that what we do is the true test of what we believe. In the parable of the two sons (Matthew 21:28-32), Jesus teaches that words are not enough. One son says no to his father but later obeys, while the other says yes but does nothing. Jesus makes it clear that the one who acted did the will of the father. This story helps us see that God values action and conversion of heart more than empty promises.
This lesson also connects with the Letter of James. In James 1:22 we read, “Be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.” This verse is simple but direct. It reminds us that faith cannot stop at listening or speaking. It must lead to action. James also tells us in 2:17 that “faith of itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” These words underline the truth that Catholic faith is alive when it is lived out through good works, service, and love.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church also explains this truth. In paragraph 1815 it says, “The gift of faith remains in one who has not sinned against it. But faith without works is dead: when it is deprived of hope and love, faith does not fully unite the believer to Christ and does not make him a living member of his Body. (CCC 1815)” This statement connects directly to the lesson. Faith is a gift, but it needs to be active. It must be joined with love and expressed in daily life.
The sacraments give us the strength to act in this way. Reconciliation allows us to admit when our actions have not matched our words. In that sacrament, God offers forgiveness and a new start. The Eucharist is food for the journey. When we receive Christ’s Body and Blood, we are called to go out and live as His disciples. These sacraments show us that God does not just want words of faith but transformed lives.
The Church also teaches about the importance of service. Jesus Himself washed the feet of His disciples (John 13:14-15). He told them to do the same for others. This action was a lesson in humility and love. The Church follows this example by teaching that service is at the heart of Christian life. When we serve others, we are putting our faith into action and living as Christ taught us.
This lesson plan helps youth see that discipleship is real when it changes how we live. It is not about being perfect but about being willing to act, even after failure. Like the first son in the parable, we may sometimes resist, but God gives us the grace to turn back and do what is right. By connecting scripture, the Catechism, and the sacraments, this lesson shows that actions truly speak louder than words in the Catholic faith.
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Questions and Answers
What is the main goal of this lesson plan?
The goal is to help youth see that actions matter more than words. It teaches them that living out faith in daily life is more important than just saying the right things.
What age group is this lesson best for?
This lesson works well with middle school and high school youth. It can be adjusted for younger or older groups with simple changes.
How long does the lesson take?
Plan for about an hour. You can shorten or expand depending on your group size and how much discussion you want to allow.
What materials do I need?
You will need instructions for the opening game, a Bible, and simple supplies for the prayer rock activity. Pens and small stones work well.
Do I need to know a lot of background information before teaching?
No. The plan includes scripture, questions, and activities. Read through it ahead of time and pray with the scripture to feel more comfortable.
How does this lesson connect to scripture?
It uses the parable of the two sons from Matthew 21. This story shows how God values action and change of heart more than empty words.
What if my group is shy and does not want to share?
Start by sharing your own short answers to the questions. This helps break the silence and makes it easier for others to join in.
Can I use this lesson in a classroom setting?
Yes. It works in youth groups, classrooms, or retreats. The activities and questions are flexible for different settings.
What is the purpose of the closing prayer circle?
The prayer circle helps youth reflect on the lesson in a personal way. It gives them a chance to lift up their feelings and thoughts to God with simple one-word prayers.
How can I follow up after the lesson?
Encourage youth to keep their prayer rock as a reminder. Ask them the next time you meet how they acted on their chosen word.
Living Faith Through Action
This lesson plan reminds us that faith is not just about what we say. It is about what we do. Words can be spoken quickly, but actions reveal what we truly believe. When youth see this connection, they begin to understand that following Jesus means more than promises. It means living out His love every day.
By reflecting on the parable of the two sons, young people see that God values honesty and change of heart. Even when we make mistakes, we can turn back and do the right thing. This gives hope and shows that real growth comes through action.
The lesson also gives youth practical ways to live their faith. Small choices, like showing kindness, offering forgiveness, or helping others, make a big difference. These daily acts are how discipleship becomes real. In the end, this lesson plan helps youth see that actions speak louder than words.
Your Turn
We encourage you to try the Actions Speak Louder than Words lesson plan with your group. It will help youth understand how their choices show their faith in real and practical ways.
After using the lesson, share your ideas in the comments. Tell us what worked well and what changes you made. Your thoughts will help others who are also using the Actions Speak Louder than Words lesson plan.
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