Opening Game
Start the First or Last? Lesson Plan on Humility by playing Alphabet Race. In this game, something simple like knowing the alphabet is made tricky by asking players to race and put it in reverse order. This helps youth realize that sometimes we overestimate our knowledge or skills. It teaches them that being confident in what we know isn’t always accurate. For complete details, see Alphabet Race – A Humility Game.
Follow up with these questions:
- Is it bad to have a special talent?
- What is the danger in being very talented?
- Have you ever known someone who thought they were better because of their talent?
There’s nothing wrong with being good at something. God gave us our gifts and talents, and He wants us to use them. But if we start focusing too much on ourselves, it becomes a problem. We need to remember that all our abilities are from God, and they should be used to help others and build up His Kingdom, not to make ourselves feel important.
Scripture Reading
Mark 9:30-37 (The apostles argue over who is the greatest) – the Gospel Reading for the 25th Sunday in Ordinary Time – Year B
Jesus and his disciples left from there and began a journey through Galilee, but he did not wish anyone to know about it.
He was teaching his disciples and telling them, “The Son of Man is to be handed over to men and they will kill him, and three days after his death the Son of Man will rise.”
But they did not understand the saying, and they were afraid to question him.
They came to Capernaum and, once inside the house, he began to ask them, “What were you arguing about on the way?”
But they remained silent. They had been discussing among themselves on the way who was the greatest.
Then he sat down, called the Twelve, and said to them, “If anyone wishes to be first, he shall be the last of all and the servant of all.”
Taking a child, he placed it in their midst, and putting his arms around it, he said to them, “Whoever receives one child such as this in my name, receives me; and whoever receives me, receives not me but the One who sent me.”Mark 9:30-37
Discussion
It seems the apostles felt embarrassed when Jesus asked them what they had been arguing about on the way. They were silent because they knew deep down that their conversation wasn’t something Jesus would approve of. They had been debating who was the greatest among them, trying to rank themselves in a kind of competition. First or last? They were caught up in trying to elevate themselves, seeking recognition and status in front of each other. But that’s not what Jesus wanted them to focus on.
To be clear, there’s nothing wrong with striving to be excellent. In fact, we should work hard to use the gifts God has given us to the best of our abilities. Doing well and aiming to succeed isn’t the problem. The issue is why we do it. If we are striving for excellence to bring glory to God and help others, that’s a good thing. But if we are trying to be better than others just to make ourselves feel more important, we’re missing the point.
The danger comes when we start comparing ourselves to others. It’s easy to fall into that trap. Maybe someone else seems smarter, more talented, or more popular, and suddenly we feel less important. Or maybe we think we’re doing better than others, and it makes us feel proud and superior. Either way, comparison distracts us from what really matters. God has given each of us unique talents and strengths, and He wants us to use them for His Kingdom. When we compare ourselves to others, it can lead to jealousy or pride, and that’s not what God wants for us.
Remember that God loves you just as you are. He didn’t make a mistake when He created you. You don’t need to try to be someone else or have different gifts to be valuable. Sometimes we might try to make ourselves seem big or important, but if it doesn’t go as planned, we can end up feeling unworthy, useless, or even unlovable. That’s not what God wants for you. He sees your worth, even when others don’t. Some people’s talents are obvious and easy to see, like being a good athlete, a strong leader, or a great speaker. Others have more quiet, hidden gifts, like being a good listener, being patient, or showing kindness. But both kinds of gifts are important and valuable.
Instead of focusing on who is the best, we should learn to appreciate what is special and beautiful about each person. That includes recognizing and being grateful for our own special gifts. Humility doesn’t mean thinking less of yourself or pretending you don’t have any gifts. It means recognizing your gifts as blessings from God, without needing to put others down to feel good about yourself. Humility lets us appreciate who we are, while also appreciating others.
Here are a few simple ways to practice humility:
First, try to talk about others instead of yourself. Not in a gossiping way, but in a way that builds others up. If you notice something good about someone, say it. Compliment them, encourage them. This doesn’t make you less important to God. It just helps you focus on the good in others and recognize their value.
When someone gives you a compliment, accept it graciously. Sometimes when people compliment us, we might feel awkward and try to brush it off or downplay it. But instead of doing that, just say “thank you.” And remember that your gifts and talents are from God, so take a moment to thank Him, too. It’s okay to feel good about the gifts God has given you, as long as you give the glory back to Him.
Another way to practice humility is to do the “behind the scenes” jobs that nobody else wants to do. Maybe it’s cleaning up after an event or helping someone who needs a hand without expecting praise. These small, humble acts of service are a way of showing love for Jesus. Even if no one else notices, God does.
If you catch yourself thinking about how much better you are than someone else, stop and think of three things that person does well. It might be something you never thought about before. Maybe they’re a great friend, a hard worker, or someone who quietly helps others. Thank God for that person and the gifts they have. This helps shift your focus from pride to gratitude.
Our society loves competition. We look up to celebrities and important people, and sometimes it feels like we need to prove ourselves to be valuable. It’s natural to want to be noticed and feel important. But Jesus turns this idea upside down. He shows us that the only person we should be looking up to is Him. He is the one who teaches us what true greatness looks like.
In the end, the First or Last? Lesson Plan on Humility reminds us that greatness in God’s Kingdom isn’t about being first in the world’s eyes. It’s about serving others, putting their needs before our own, and trusting that God sees our hearts. He loves us for who we are, not for how we measure up to others. Humility allows us to grow closer to Him and appreciate the beauty in everyone around us, including ourselves.
Small Group Reflection Questions
As you lead your small group, encourage open and honest sharing. Remind the group that everyone has different experiences, and it’s okay to be vulnerable. Listen to each other without judgment and offer support. The goal is to help each person grow in their understanding of humility and how to apply it in their daily lives. Use the following questions to guide your discussion, but feel free to let the conversation flow naturally.
- Why do you think the apostles were arguing about who was the greatest? How does that relate to how we act today?
- In what areas of your life do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? How does this affect your self-esteem or relationships?
- What does it mean to you to be “the last of all and the servant of all”? Can you think of a time when you saw someone do this?
- Have you ever struggled with pride or false humility? What does that look like in your life?
- How does focusing on Jesus’ humility on the cross change the way we view our own need for humility?
- What are some small acts of service you can do this week to practice humility?
- How can we encourage others to use their gifts without falling into competition or jealousy?
- Why do you think humility is so important in the Catholic faith?
- How can we develop a humble heart in our daily life, especially when the world seems to value success and recognition?
- What is one area of your life where you want to grow in humility, and how can the group support you in that?
Challenge
This week, choose one area of your life where you need to practice more humility. Maybe it’s a talent you’ve been using to seek praise or a group of friends that focuses on boosting themselves up. Or perhaps you struggle with false humility, trying to appear humble just to gain admiration. Spend a few minutes each day in prayer, asking Jesus to help you grow in true humility.
If you find it challenging, reflect on the humility Jesus showed on the cross. Though He is God, He allowed Himself to be stripped, wounded, and humiliated for our sake. Meditate on the trust He had in His Father’s love. Ask Jesus to help you trust in God’s love for you, knowing that you don’t need the approval of others to feel valuable.
Prayer
Leader:
Loving Father,
We thank You for the gift of this time together, and for the lesson on humility that You have placed in our hearts. Help us to follow the example of Your Son, Jesus, who showed us that true greatness comes from serving others. Teach us to put aside our pride and seek to love others with a humble heart.
All:
Lord, help us to see ourselves and others through Your eyes. Give us the grace to recognize the gifts You have given us and to use them for Your glory. Show us how to serve with joy, without seeking recognition, and to trust in Your love for us.
Leader:
We ask for Your guidance in the days ahead, that we may grow in humility and live as true disciples of Christ. Help us to always remember that in serving others, we are serving You.
All:
Amen.
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